SET THE BAR, Make Others Reach

Aren't you tired of the Low Standard? Do you want Excellence in Your Life? Start Setting the Bar. Place it at the Height YOU want it to be.

The Bar's Golden for a Reason

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Here's a secret: Everywhere you go, someone is Setting the Bar.

And that Bar is Golden - What do I mean?

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Once the Bar is Set, Everyone Reaches for It.

It's a Golden Rule... or in this case, Bar.

What is the Bar?

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It's the Standard of Behavior and Action in an Environment.

It's the Acceptable and Encouraged Behavior and Action in an Environment.

It is what sets the Tone of the Environment.


-> Imagine hitting the Bar with another piece of metal. <-
It makes a Tone.

If Your Tone is Strong Enough, or If You Keep the Bar Set in Place, others cannot resist it's Influence.

The Tone Creates the Culture.

A Supportive Culture, creates Success for You.

Your Environment Makes You.

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This one might sting. Yes, a lot of who you are is determined by You and what You want for your life. But the other side to that coin is true as well. A lot of who you are is also determined by the people around you.

Think of Music.

When you hear it, it's almost irresistible to Sing Along, Hum to the Tune or even Dance With it. Music has a Rhythm, or a Force that Moves You in a Direction.


The Emotional Tone of the Music is that Force.

An Irritated Tone Can Make You Irritated.
A Sad Tone Can Make You Sad.
A Happy Tone Can Make You Happy.

and

-> A Strong Tone Can Make You Strong! <-

(You see that was an example right there, I set the tone of the words above to express strength. The Bigger and Bolder Letters express Stronger Energy - Tone is Everywhere.)

People are constantly expressing a certain tone. Whether or not it is their conscious chosen tone or just one they picked up from their environment (or both), they are playing some music for you to hear.

And if you're not careful, you may just start dancing to it.

The Importance of Leaders

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Leaders are known for Setting the Bar towards a Desired Direction.

Leaders Set the Bar High.

Followers Set the Bar Low.


If you're not a Leader, you are a Follower. It's not bad to be a Follower. Actually, it's impossible to be a Leader without being a Follower.
One Coin, Two Sides.

However, it is important to understand that if you want to achieve your goals in life, you must start being a Leader for Yourself.

You must learn to Be Assertive and Start Setting the Bar Higher.


The only person who can speak for you, is you. Even a Leader outside of you cannot lead for you if they do not know of your desires.

Creating a Culture of Success

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Have you ever had a Boss or Manager that just didn't know how to lead well?

They were Setting the Bar Low.
The Tone Created Bad Culture.
The Dance wasn't Fun.

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The Results Were Terrible


For a Successful Culture, it Requires a Successful Tone.
Good Music.
Proper Rhythm that Flows Well.


That Requires Someone or Something to Set the Bar.


Let that Someone be You!

Everyone wants Happiness and Contentment - So don't let the Environment you are in overwhelm you. Have a voice! Play your music!

Set the Bar!

How to Set the Bar High

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The Golden Question for the Golden Bar.

How do You Set it High?

1.) Be the Example.

Be About the things that are Important to you.
- Talk about them & Take action on them. -

Express Your Truth and Your Feelings in a Respectful Way.
- Listen to Understand (Yourself & Others). -

Grow, Improve Yourself and Learn from Mistakes.
- Always Set the Bar a Little Higher. -


2.) Be In-Tolerable to Abuse

If someone is Setting the Bar Low, do not comply, respectfully.

Realize the Direction of the Tone and Express Your Preference for a Different One.

Start Expressing Your Preferred Tone. (Repeat #1.)

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They will either walk away, join you, or resist you. Do not force anything upon anyone, respect their Free-Will.

But Respect Your True Self As Well.
Respect Your Preferred Tone.
Be Strong but Gentle in Your Handlings with Others.

Also, Be Wary of Saving Others or Giving HandOuts instead of HandUps.
Knowing how to Help Others Properly can help you Set the Bar.


Thanks for Reading Everyone, and Thank You for Setting the Bar Higher.

Love you guys,
Shou

Can You Set the Bar Too High?
(My Story)

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I used to Never Set the Bar. I didn't like being Assertive or Expressing my Desires. It always hurt me to do so. There was a lot of pain involved in being that way.

For me, being Assertive and Expressing my Desires meant I was being Selfish. It meant that I didn't care about other peoples desires or their feelings. And I wanted people to like me, so I just went with what others wanted, even if their Bar was Set Low.

Ultimately, this lead me to doing things and experiencing things that were out of alignment with who I really was. This caused a lot of internal pain and turmoil, alongside any physical repercussions I may have received. The feeling of doing something that just doesn't feel right to you, that you may even feel ashamed of or like you have betrayed yourself on a deep level is one I had to deal with a lot by Not Setting the Bar.

This is when I decided to Start Setting the Bar for myself. I learned that in many of my experiences in life, I was already setting the bar, just not for myself. I was setting the bar at the level I had seen others do it, or the level that I thought was the only level possible. At first I only set the bar a little bit higher than I knew. It was a small stretch but it began to work. I started to see improvement in my interactions with other people, as well as my own internal interactions. I started to Love Myself a little more.

Eventually, down the road, I got better at Setting the Bar Higher and Higher but I ended up hitting a Peak. Or at least, I thought so. I stopped Setting the Bar Higher because I believed that I had reached a level so high that people couldn't even come close to me. So for any possible chance of connection, I would have to again, Set the Bar Low. I did this for about 2 years. It got out of hand, so much so that I started to get really lazy and I started letting others Set the Bar. I started losing myself and becoming them. I was where I had started in the beginning, again.

I got to a point where a lot of things in my life just fell apart because I wasn't there to uphold them. I, myself, as an individual, was gone. And inconsequential, anything that was an extension of me, began to disappear as well.

This may sound like a very horrible and depressing thing, and it was. However, after going through it all, I ended up having nothing left to lose - and everything to gain. Like a Phoenix from the Ashes (hell yeah let's get dramatic here!), I rose. And even stronger than ever. It was as if the weight of all of that negativity in my life had conditioned me to be a better me. A me that could handle any Low Set Bar there was. It was as if I now had the strength to pick that bar up and Set it Even Higher.

So I began to stop caring about the fact that people may not be able to reach me if I set it super high. I had the memories and scars of what happens when you settle for the Low Bar. You get weak. It's like exercise, if you don't use it, you lose it. (Maybe not forever and you may come back even stronger but it is true.) And those scars made it easier to prioritize Setting the Bar High.

And as a consequence of Setting the Bar Higher, regardless if anyone could reach me, I ended up hanging out with some people who, when I Set the Bar Higher, were able to actually reach it. And that experience changed my life forever. I started to have a spark of hope that I could keep Setting the Bar High and find connection and support. So I noticed this little spark and I jumped on it. I started nurturing this fire. I made a commitment to spending time with the people who Set that Bar Higher and what I found out was life-changing.

Those who Set the Bar Higher, will always continue to Set the Bar Higher. They value Growth and Openness to Others.

This means the more You Set the Bar High, the Better Your Life will be.
It also means the Easier it Will be to Have a Higher Set Bar.

When I hang out with these people now, if I slip up a little on Setting the Bar Higher, they give me a hand up. They don't let me stay down.

You will find others who Appreciate a Higher Set Bar or they will find you...
But if You Set it Low, You're Harder to Find.

The Moral of My Story:
Set the Bar Higher, and Your Life will Always Grow and Expand.
Set it Low and Your Life Begins to Fade Away.

Don't Give Up.
It Always Gets Better.
Even if at first, it's worse.

Just Strive for a Higher Bar.